Where is the Love?

Valentine's Day is Cominggggggg

I gave this cookie to my surfer husband today. Valentine's Day is not for two more days. But hey, gotta set the mood. I hope the surfer and I are feeling in love on Valentines Day. Other wise ... I will have to fake it. Anyone who is in love or has been in love, knows what I mean. Some days you feel it and some days you don't. That is why marriage is a commitment and not a feeling.

If couples were feeling crazy in love every day nothing would get done. We would all be having sex, eating, and sitting around in ecstasy thinking about how fortunate we are to have each other. The world as we know it would fall apart. Divorce lawyers and therapists would go out of business and the population would explode.

So there in a nutshell is the esoteric reasoning of why ups and downs are normal in all relationships - it is protecting civilization.

When you're wondering, where is the love? Do your part, go with the flow, and help preserve our world. The key to being in love for over three decades, as the surfer and I are: is being kind and patient as you figure out not, where is the love . . . but how to be love.

Be love and Do Comfort. Here are some tips:
Do Touch: A comforting touch can melt the heart. Hold hands, snuggle, put your arm around each other, send the message, this isn't about sex, it is about loving you. Hot!
Do Talk: Do know your loves' hopes, dreams and deepest fears. How do start talking about these things? Say you want to know. The surfer and I make a list and and share out loud. You maybe surprised. Then you can dream together and help each other feel safe.
Do Tell: What do you appreciate about each other? Say it often and mention it in front of others.
Do Time: Take time each day to pull each other close, look in each others eyes, and connect. After all, this person is THE most important person in your life. Make them feel like it.

Three decades and six kids later . . . I can tell you this works.
Do Comfort and Be the Love.

Where is the love, y'all come on
Where is the love, y'all come on
Father, Father, Father help us. Send us some guidance from above
Where is the love? The love, the love.

BE THE LOVE